The months of November-January are months when examination results are released in Singapore. It is the time to celebrate the accomplishment of the young people in the academic world. Many will anxiously ask, "Do I make you proud?" Some are unsure due to failure to enter a more prestigious institution. Some are unsure due to failure secure a seat in a "coveted" programme. Some are just chasing bench mark and expectation from parents that keeps going up year by year.
If you are parents with school age children, make sure you tell your children "I am proud of what you have done." By doing this parents release their children to take ownership of their academic accomplishment. It becomes the children's responsibility and in the long run, they'll work even harder for their own sake.
Some parents will disagree, "What if my child's result is just mediocre because they did not put in enough effort?" The truth of the matter is, if the child attend school regularly, hand in assignments regularly, and sit for the long hours of exam, all those took great effort. It should not be discredited because his/her results is not stellar when compared to other students. After all, we are not all born geniuses.
What to do when your child fail miserably? Commiserate with them. They are sure to be miserable too. They need comfort instead of chastise. When parents commiserate, instead of chastise, poor results, the child feels that there is someone in his corner. This will energize him.
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